Most people say they want to do ambitious things with their lives like building a business or writing a book or making a film.

But it’s not exactly true.

“To know what people really think, pay attention to what they do, rather than what they say.”

Descartes

What they really want to do is sit and watch TV every night for 60 years. Comfort is what they want, not discomfort. And the TV provides it.

The choices that determine our lives

Every day, you make a small choice: move toward the life you say you want, or drift toward the life that requires nothing from you.

People think regret arrives dramatically. It doesn’t. It accumulates in microscopic layers: one postponed decision, one avoided effort, one comfortable evening after another.

Decades later, they realize the truth: they never lived the life they believed they were pursuing.

This gap — between what you say and what you do — is one of the strongest predictors of whether someone reaches the end of their life with peace or despair.

If you want to avoid regret, this is the place to look first.

The honest question that predicts the future

If someone recorded everything you did last week — your choices, your habits, your real behaviours — and compared it to the life you claim to want:

Would your actions confirm your story or contradict it?

Most people don’t want to ask that question. They prefer the comfort of denial. But you’re here, which suggests you are not “most people.” You recognise that honesty is cheaper now than the regret of avoidance later.

This page will help you examine that gap clearly. Not to judge you — but to give you the clarity required to fix it.

Your actions-versus-intentions assessment

The goal is simple: make your life coherent again.

Coherence is the opposite of regret.

Why the book matters

How to Not Regret Your Life exists for one reason: to give people a structure strong enough to support the life they claim to want.

Not motivation. Not slogans. A system:

• to close the gap between intentions and actions
• to build self-respect through consistent behaviour
• to prevent the slow drift into comfort addiction
• to make your future self grateful, not resentful

You’re reading this early. The book is not publicly available yet. Only people who reach these pages are being invited into the early group.

The step that matters right now

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